Reclaim your curiosity
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Ready to fight back against the confusion, heartbreak, and madness of our dangerously divided times?Find the answers you need by talking with people—rather than about them—and asking the questions you want across the divides you want, curiously.Seeing where people are coming from isn't just possible. It's easier than you think.Order your copy today!
Praise for the book
“In clear and lively exposition, Mónica shows how urgently we need to return to our basic curiosity about how people think and feel, and offers the sensible, straight-talk toolkit that can get us there.”— SHERRY TURKLE, professor at MIT and New York Times bestselling author of Reclaiming Conversation and The Empathy Diaries
“The lessons of this book will improve all your personal and professional relationships —guaranteed— and might even save America.”— MARKOS MOULITSAS, founder of Daily Kos
“Mónica’s tools for understanding without judgment are precisely the ones we need to build a bridge over the chasm —a bridge we must build if we value our democratic republic and our relationships with people we love.”— BILL BRYANT, former Washington Republican gubernatorial candidate
“Everyone is losing their minds, but good news—Mónica can help us find them. Whether you’re left, right, center, or you’ve had it with the tribes and labels, this book is your map out of the madness.”— BRIDGET PHETASY, writer, stand-up comedian, and host of the YouTube program Dumpster Fire and podcast Walk-Ins Welcome
“An accessible and practical guide for how to imagine a future that leaves no one behind.”— VALARIE KAUR, author of See No Stranger and founder of the Revolutionary Love Project
“A vivid account by someone who has experienced the fracturing of our country more intimately than most, this beautifully crafted narrative takes you inside the most vexing political divisions and makes them understandable.”— CHRISTOPHER BAIL, PhD, head of the Polarization Lab at Duke University and author of Breaking the Social Media Prism
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"(Mónica's) talk was incredibly insightful, timely, and well-delivered, and it inspired a lot of great follow-up discussion and interaction. The framing of the six good and bad questions is brilliant, and there is so much depth, richness, and wisdom encapsulated nicely in those."
— Philip Welkhoff, The Bill & Melinda Gates Foundation
“Based on the insights from Mónica's session, I restructured the format of our community meetup and breakout rooms, integrating more probing questions about actual past personal experiences and concerns. The result was truly remarkable. I think everyone had quite a powerful experience, forged deeper relationships and stronger connections.”
— Paul Needham, Positive.Capital Partners
Mónica as a speaker
A bridge builder in her personal and professional life, Mónica leads groups to get radically curious across gaping cultural, social, and political divides in order to be able to truly see each other and the world. In addition to these stories, Mónica can also write or speak on:
Tips for navigating challenging conversations and building bridges across any topic or division
Mónica’s personal story of building bridges within her politically divided family
Why radical curiosity in 1-to-1 conversations will save us (like no politician, group, or institution can)
Rejecting what the world tells us about 'the other side' and asking our own questions to learn the paths people walk to their views
How using curiosity as a powerful tool will help you reduce fear, break free of assumptions, and gain new understanding
Maintaining balance in the midst of a conversation that becomes fraught or divisive
Determining when the conditions are right for talking politics online
Having conversations that lead you to say: "I never thought of it that way"
Calendar of events
Save the date for one of the stops on Mónica's book tour! She'll be jet-setting across the country and beaming down to your Zoom screens.
Braver Angels Minneapolis Alliance: A Curious Conversation with Governor Tim Pawlenty - 5/10 at 6:00 p.m. CT Register here!
Braver Angels Cincinnati and Greater Ohio Alliance: Book talk and Curiosity Workshop - 5/11 at 7 p.m. ET | Register here!
Richland Source Book Talk and Curiosity Workshop: 5/13 @ 3 p.m. ET | Register here!
Cafetcita + Charla with Latina Authors: Mónica Guzmán with Ashley K. Stoyanov Ojeda - 5/15 at 12 p.m. PT | Register here!
Mónica Guzmán is a bridge builder, journalist, and entrepreneur who lives for great conversations sparked by curious questions.She’s director of digital and storytelling at Braver Angels, the nation’s largest cross-partisan grassroots organization working to depolarize America; host of live interview series at Crosscut; and cofounder of the award-winning Seattle newsletter The Evergrey.She was a 2019 fellow at the Henry M. Jackson Foundation, where she studied social and political division, and a 2016 fellow at the Nieman Foundation for Journalism at Harvard University, where she researched how journalists can rethink their roles to better meet the needs of a participatory public.She was named one of the 50 most influential women in Seattle, served twice as a juror for the Pulitzer Prizes, and plays a barbarian named Shadrack in her besties’ Dungeons & Dragons campaign. A Mexican immigrant, Latina, and dual US/Mexico citizen, she lives in Seattle with her husband and two kids and is the proud liberal daughter of conservative parentsLearn more about Mónica here